I am a victim of domestic violence. It sounds so melodramatic, but I don’t think it’s helpful to call it other than what it is.
Tonight was the third incident. After a long night of fighting, around 3:00 I had shut my mouth and shut my eyes. My wife lunged at me, trying to push me out of the bed. I said “what are you doing!” She bit my arm and continued pushing. Our dog was pushed out of the bed onto the floor, and then I was pushed out next.
As I was getting dressed, she said she was sorry for biting me. I said “not as sorry as you’re going to be.” In the subway station I took off my shirt and took pictures of the bite marks on my arm. It’s still aching a bit now.
I packed my bag and headed downstairs. She begged me to stay and talk. I said “you have one minute. Say something good.” She wanted to talk about who would get the dogs when we separated. I said this was not the time to discuss the details of our divorce. She tried to keep my phone from me, and then tried to keep my bag from me. She tried to not let me leave the apartment. I said “Get out of my way. Give me my bag. I will call the police. Get out of my way. I will call the police.”
I left. I’m all alone. I’m reading about NY state domestic violence laws and orders of protection. I’m wondering whether I should have called the cops after all. I’m unsure whether I’ll go to the courthouse to file for an order of protection and/or divorce in a few hours when it opens. I’m unsure of anything at this point.