when i first moved in with my boyfriend, i went through everything in his house while he was at work looking for stuff from his ex-wife. she is very beautiful, but a jerk, and i am somewhat plain but generally very nice. i convinced myself that because she was beautiful, he would break up with me to get back with her. i found all her old love letters to him and read them and cried. i watched their wedding video and wanted to die. but in the course of three years together, he has eventually pitched all the stuff from her. we’re getting married in 5 months. i want to tell him how i violated his privacy, but i just can’t. i feel like such an insecure asshole.